Rupture and Repair in Relationships

I have been inspired to share this with you as I have found it to be so useful for couples.
What it is not, is Sorry BUT…

Terry Real describes 3 steps
the particular to the trend to the character problem.

You are late, you are always late and you are a bleep person etc.
The great thing is that this can be deescalated easily. Yes you are right. I am late, I am often late and yes I need to tackle this. 3 steps down.

and when you own it, ‘ Land on the damn thing’ and then ask your partner what they need and offer it there and then because if it makes your partner happy it makes you happy too!