As I get more understanding of this approach, my approach is to look for the patterns in relationships and where the points of rupture are. This saves a lot of time and hones us in more quickly to the arising issues that are often brought by the adaptations we met to survive in our family of origin. Often we look to a partner to fulfil this hole and that rarely works as it often involves asking a parent to fulfil a parent role and that is just attractive to the other partner. Going forward, this approach asks the individual to start to parent their inner child and in this way, the relationship dance shifts. More to come ..